We have set ourselves two massive things to save up for in the next 5 years...a house and marriage. Two things we really want!! I mean I have just got a new job, and the pay is pretty good (compared to what I have been on of recent) but I'm worried what if I get ill, what if 40 hours is too much and I can't cope... I might be absolutely fine, I plan on just making my life and my boyfriends work routine around my new work. So if I'm doing a late, get up a bit later, stay up late that night to fit all my physio and nebs in, then be in a routine for late's... but as soon as it changes to early I will have to re-routine myself around that so early bed and get up really early to do nebs and physio...yes easier planned and said than probably actually done, but we'll see. The new job is absolutely amazing and I can't wait to get properly into it! The staff seem very supportive so I am sure it will be absolutely fine.
Then on the CF site there is a lot of talk about having children and the morals of it all, and the safety on our health. I find it really hard to read these posts, because having a baby has never been a question to me, and still it's what I want. And I know its what my partner wants, he's such a family person and it would kill both of us if we couldn't have a baby. I worry what if I just can't get pregnant anyway? What if pregnancy makes me so ill that it harms the baby? If I have the baby then I know once that babies born IT WILL live a happy life, even when/if I loose my life early on. My family are amazing and my mum would do anything for that baby and my bf's family would look after baby, we have close parents, brothers and sisters who would all show this baby enough love...so the morals of bringing the baby into my family I have no problem with. I would just love to be there... and there is nothing to say that I wont, but as I have noticed a lot more recently...Cystic Fibrosis is unpredictable. But there's no saying whether I will just get ill anyway, even if we don't have a baby and then at least I'd be leaving Marc with like a part of me..and they'd have each other...with all the nasty cancer's etc in the world, many kids loose a parent early on, I've witnessed it with a close friend, it was a dreadful time, but the dad looks after the kids now, the mums not forgotten but they live a happy life as it is. Just writing it down here, now, I feel a release of the worry I have had. It all sounds better in my head now. And I know the path I will take so long as I maintain a lung function for when the time is right to have a baby. It will be the right thing for me. At the moment however we can't afford it, so im hoping I can stay well for these next 5 years so we can then start trying. Will probably start seeing docs about it in about 3 years as when you have CF having a baby is a much longer process than normal. Sorry if any of the above has upset/offended any fellow CF'ers it's a very tough subject for all cf'ers.
I think that is all that's been playing on my mind actually, now I have written it down, it seems so silly that it has been getting to me for days. Only time will tell, and we can't plan some of these things in life....Worrying about whether I will handle my job is not going to help, all I can do is do it and see...If I can't I will just have to cut my hours down. But I'm sure I will be fine:D